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You’re so done with playing around in dating and relationships. You’re so tired of having to jump from one guy to the next. You don’t want to keep on engaging in temporary flings and casual hookups anymore. You want something serious. You want something real. You want to be with someone who is actually going to stay and fight to be with you forever.
But you can’t seem to find much luck in that department. Every guy that you fall in love with starts out really nice and you think that they have what it takes to be with you for the long haul. You allow yourself to get really invested in them. But you don’t really see any of your risks paying off. You are constantly finding yourself feeling disappointed, let down, and heartbroken over how none of your relationships are ever built to last.
Why is that?
You genuinely believe that you have what it takes. You really do believe that you are deserving of love. You think that you have enough experience in the field to actually make a relationship last. Heck, you’ve even seen people who have never been in relationships before getting it right on the first try. Why is it that you can’t get it right? Why is the world so unfair to you?
Well, here’s the thing. Just because you think that you’re ready for a long-term love doesn’t mean that the guys that you date are going to be ready for the same. You need to be able to scout for the boys who are actually going to show a willingness to go the distance with you. There are so many men out there who aren’t ready to commit and who would only be willing to hook up on a casual basis.
And you have to be very careful with these men. They are so good at saying all the right words and doing all the right things just to get you to trust them. But once they feel like things are getting a little too serious in the relationship, then that’s when they will decide to bail. These kinds of guys are so good at manipulating girls in order to just hook up with them. But they don’t have any real intentions to commit to them for the long term.
Fortunately for you, it’s possible to spot these guys out right away when you’re just starting to date them. There are just certain things a guy would only be willing to do if he’s serious about having a long-term relationship with you. And if you find that a lot of the things that are listed here actually apply to the guy that you’re dating, then consider yourself in luck. It’s very much likely that you’re with a man who wants to be with you for the long-term.
He takes the initiative in actually dating you
He doesn’t wait around for you to do all the heavy lifting. He doesn’t wait around for you to put on all the moves. He takes the initiative to actually turn your relationship into something real.
He tells you about the things that he’s most passionate about
He’s trying to give you a good glimpse into his life. He wants you to see him for who he really is so that you wouldn’t have any trouble with trusting him and being with him.
He actually talks about future plans with you
He doesn’t shy away from talking about future plans with you. He understands that if he wants your relationship to have a future, he’s going to have to be willing to talk about that future.
He introduces you to all of his closest friends and family
He lets you into his world in as intimate a capacity as he can. And so he decides to introduce you to all the important people in his life. He’s essentially telling you that you’re important to him too and that he sees you sticking around for the long haul.
He takes the time to really listen to you
He doesn’t just automatically shut down whatever you have to say. He really takes the time to listen to you and pay attention to your needs and your desires in life
He shows a willingness to make compromises for you
He shows a willingness to adjust and make compromises for you. He understands that he can’t always have it his way if he wants to keep you in his life. And he’s okay with making those compromises.
He opens up to you about his fears and vulnerabilities
This is a real sign that a man truly trusts you and relies on you. He trusts you enough to bare his whole self to you. He doesn’t put any walls up anymore. He doesn’t distance himself from you. He truly is letting you in.