Most of you might not believe it, but ladies in these times are making the decision to wait until they say “I do”. The motivation for these decisions might differ, however, the fact still remains that as a virgin bride you are about to experience something alien and different, so you either get yourself prepared or face the consequences. If you are a virgin bride, this guide is for you!
As a virgin, you ought to get to know your body, unfortunately, most women do not even try to do this. I don’t know if they are being shy about it, here’s a word for you today though, don’t be! Stand in front of a mirror and acquaint yourself with the perfect piece of art called your body. Research, read and get as much knowledge as possible.
If you are waiting until you get married, sex should be a subject you should talk about every now and then, talking about it eases the tension and you get the opportunity to discover each other. Discuss fantasies and limits, it may not seem like much before you get married but unrealized expectations can become a problem in your marital life.
If your partner is experienced, he will probably be able to guide you through the awkwardness of the first night, because it is definitely going to get awkward. Communicate with him how you felt, what you felt and when you felt it, you might be sore from using muscles you have never used before, however, don’t be shy, talk about it.
Communicating all of these things will help you both correct mistakes you make at every stage and guide you slowly but surely into having a great sex life.
As young ladies, we have different priorities set, that being said, it is important to note that you can get pregnant on the first night; the first encounter with your husband can get you pregnant. Now, I’m not saying this is a bad thing, however, if you and your husband want to adopt the family planning method and wait for a while, it is advisable that you make medical consultations.
Well before your first time together, discuss with your gynecologist who should test you for the best contraceptives suited for you if you are not ready to have kids just yet.
You know, it’s ok if sex doesn’t happen on the first night because the wedding stress can take its toll on your desire. All the craziness around the wedding and plans to get away for the honeymoon can be a spoiler for the moment. However, you don’t have to rush because there is really nothing sacred about doing on the exact night of the wedding. You still have a lifetime to explore, discover and enjoy!
I’m sure you are familiar with the Hollywood scene that portrays the perfect, rehearsed, smooth version of sex, if you are expecting it to be exactly that way, sorry to burst your bubble but that is far from reality, especially the first few times.
You might hurt each other and you will feel really weird the first couple of times, however, this is the perfect time to work on communication and forgiveness. Talk to each other and figure out what’s going on together.
SLOW AND STEADY
Now that you are about to begin, remember that it might be a ‘race’ but definitely not a ‘marathon’. Communicate with your partner about what feels good, this will give him the confidence to continue doing those things you like and possibly introduce new things to you. Always have a lubricant at your disposal because your anxious body might not produce the natural lubrication you need. As a ‘newbie’, you need to remember that you are not a sex goddess, so the missionary position is a safe way to start and then you can build up from there, remember to always take it one step at a time.
You have waited this long, it is now time to enjoy the ride. No limitations, no inhibitions, just do it!