How To Enjoy Your Engagement Without The Stress Of Wedding Planning

As a newly-engaged lady, you might be ready to start planning right away, especially if you’ve been dreaming about this day for as long as you can remember. But hold up. Before you get up to your eyelashes in venues, dresses, and cake flavors, take a moment to consider what this time between engagement and marriage means to you. This is a fantastic moment in your life and it should be cherished just as much as your wedding day. Plus, not rushing into the planning phase and trying to get things done as soon as possible will take out a lot of undue stress and possible mistakes. So let’s talk about how you can enjoy your engagement to its fullest.

1. Start Slow

Don’t feel like you have to start securing dates and making “Will you be my bridesmaid?” phone calls cards right after he slips the ring on your finger. Enjoy what just happened and ease into wedding planning. You don’t want to feel overwhelmed from the get-go. Once you’re ready to start planning, sit down with your fiance over morning coffee and log onto for ideas and tips as you start brainstorming or creating a plan of action. Talk about what you both want. Wedding planning is a team effort, after all.

2. Write it Down

Start an engagement notebook or diary of a sort to document this special time in your life. Write about your engagement in particular (how it made you feel), becoming a bride, jot down wedding ideas as you envision how you would like your wedding to be. Paste some pictures and mementos onto the pages of this notebook. Treat it like a scrapbook if you’d like and create a memory of a lifetime. Trust me, you’ll love looking through it in the future after you’ve been married as you grow old together.

3. Enjoy the Anticipation

One of the greatest things about an engagement period is the anticipation it creates. You’re over the moon, your fiancé is excited, family and friends are all happy for you. Having something to look forward to can give you a major happiness boost, so don’t rush it! Let that anticipation for the big day fuel your dreams, imaginations and give you butterflies in your stomach. The wedding day will be over in the blink of an eye, so don’t race to get there just yet. Enjoy your engagement for as long as it lasts, take a leisurely walk through it and enjoy everything that comes with it.

4. Count Your Blessings

It’s easy to get wrapped up in wedding planning and often causes some level of stress and frustration. During those moments, remember why you’re getting married and make a list of all the things you’re grateful for especially in regard to your partner. Doing so will bring to light the positive moments and the things you’re enjoying about your engagement as well as wedding planning. Don’t let vendor frustrations and any bickering get to you. Instead, focus on the blessings and you’ll be much happier for it.

5. Spend Time Together (without wedding talk)

Most of your engagement will be centered around wedding planning, so it’s important to take moments that involve no such thing. Schedule a day each week where you and your fiance get together and do something that doesn’t require you to talk budget, the venue, who your photographer is going to be or who to invite and not invite to your wedding. Even if it’s just a night together for a movie or dinner at a beautiful restaurant around town. Give yourselves a break from future bride and groom-dom and just enjoy being a couple.



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