Let’s just say it, being shy around women sucks! Shyness can freeze you in your tracks and be your biggest obstacle in connecting with women. However, lots of guys find ways to overcome their shyness and end up meeting some amazing women.
So, if you are a shy guy too, here are a few outstanding ways you can easily kick away that within a very short span of time.
1. Cultivate your “inner extrovert”
Start by making an effort to be less shy around everyone. Try being more gregarious and outgoing with people you already know including friends, family members and co-workers.
Practice being more expressive regarding communication, opinions, humour and rapport with people you already have a connection with. Doing so will naturally transfer over to your conversations with women.
2. Determine if it’s a confidence problem
Being an introvert is one thing and having a lack of confidence is another. There are plenty of confident introverts out there (think the “strong, silent types”), but for some men, a reluctance to approach women is due to insecurities.
Which type are you? If it is a confidence issue, introspect as to whether there may be any underlying issues getting in your way. A coach, therapist or matchmaker can help you process and support you in identifying any blind-spots which might be coming in your way. Sometimes people mistakenly wait until they feel confident to take action – it works the other way around. Once you take small steps, they will lead to feelings of success, which will further result in feeling confident.
3. Spend more time on yourself
When it comes to building confidence, there can be value in taking a break from dating and spending more time on yourself for a while.
Get to the gym, pursue hobbies you love, take a class or put more focused time on your career. Improving yourself builds confidence. When you know you have something to offer a woman, shyness can naturally evaporate.
4. Practice not being shy around women
If being shy and quiet around women is your “default setting,” try getting out of your comfort zone by doing something totally out of character, such as flirting playfully with every woman you encounter for a whole day. You’ll make their day and get to feel what it’s like NOT to be shy for a day. And who knows – you might get a date out of one of those exchanges!
5. Make friends with rejection
No that’s not a typo. Being cool with rejection is the key to overcoming the fear of it. Even the most gregarious guys get shot down. In fact, it probably happens to them the most, since they are talking to so many more women.
The difference is they have “made peace” with rejection, and they don’t let it discourage them. Look at it this way; you want to get rejected by the women who are not a match. That way when ‘Miss Right’ comes along, you will be available.