How To Choose Your Bridesmaids

Wondering how to choose bridesmaids? It’s never an easy job. You risk alienating friends, offending family members or picking someone who puts a dampener on your big day. Here are a few tips on how to negotiate the diplomatic minefield that is how to choose bridesmaids, and have a stress-free wedding day that everyone can enjoy.

How Many Bridesmaids Should I Have?

How many bridesmaids you have is to completely up to you. You might just want just your sister or, alternatively, have dozens of family and friends following you up the aisle. Keep in mind your budget – you may have to pay for bridesmaids dresses and flower girl dresses and, the more attendants you have, the more you’ll have to budget for the hairdresser, make-up artist and florist.

Which Friends Should I Pick?

If you’re part of a large friendship group, you have some difficult choices when it comes to how to choose bridesmaids. There are two options – firstly, ask the people that you’ve known for the longest, see the most and feel closest to and explain to the others that you really value their friendship and are looking forward to celebrating your big day with them. If they’re real friends, they’ll understand. The second option is to avoid having friends as bridesmaids altogether and stick to a family-only wedding party.


How Can I Avoid Bridesmaidzillas?

Some of your friends might be great fun on a night out but a nightmare when it comes to planning a wedding. You’ll have enough to organise for your special day without worrying about a bridesmaid who thinks she looks fat in her dress or doesn’t like what the stylist has done with her hair. Choose friends that are going to help you before the wedding and not add to your “To Do” list by being drama queens.

What Is The Flower Girl Etiquette?

Flower girls are a cute addition to the wedding party, but don’t feel like you have to have them. If you do, choose younger family members or the children of close friends. Sometimes, choosing the little girls of friends who haven’t made the list as bridesmaids is a great way to avoid any potential altercations.

How Do You Know If Someone Is A Bridesmaid Or Maid of Honour?

Traditionally, bridesmaids were the unmarried friends and younger sisters of the bride but the 21st century has changed all that. Still, if you find it a bit strange having your heavily pregnant, older sister as a bridesmaid: perhaps suggest they lead out the wedding party and act as Maid of Honour instead.

Do I Have To Include My Groom’s Family?

It’s not just about who you want to have standing beside you on your wedding day – your fiancé may have a few requests too. Having his sister who you don’t like might be difficult to swallow but if it’s something he feels strongly about, you’re going to have to put your differences aside for a few hours. After all, it’s his day too.

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