What Should Your Bridesmaids Pay For?

We know that asking your bridesmaids to pay for certain things can be tough, and it can get awkward when your expectations don’t line up with theirs—especially when they’re doing so much to support you already. Whether it’s coordinating the bridal shower or some of your service providers, be honest about what you expect from your crew, up front about all costs associated with their commitment, and willing to compromise wherever you can.

Although it’s often an uncomfortable thing to discuss financial needs, it’s important to be open and straightforward about what you expect from your bridesmaids in respect with financial support or contribution towards your wedding. After all, we expect them to be your close friends. If you’re gracious and understanding, they will be too.

Traditionally, when you choose someone to be your bridesmaid, that’s all it is. Oftentimes, they only have to go with you to make shopping for the dresses or be measured if their attires are going to be tailored. For some cases, simply just sit back and wait to be assigned specific tasks to perform on your special day. However, a few things have changed in modern day weddings especially when it comes to financial contributions. To get the conversation started, here’s a complete guide to what bridesmaids are and aren’t typically expected to pay for.

Wedding Ensemble

Bridesmaid dresses, shoes and accessories (including jewelry, unless you’re gifting it to them) are their responsibility.

Bridal Shower  

Depending on who’s hosting, your maid of honor and bridesmaids are often expected to foot the bridal shower bill. But if your family is hosting (or co-hosting), a portion of the costs and responsibilities—from décor and activities to food and beverages—will fall on them.

Bridal Shower Gift

One wedding gift is usually enough and a bridal shower gift is by no means required. But if the party has a fun theme like a lingerie swap, it’s possible to participate without purchasing a huge gift off the registry—or another huge gift altogether.

Bachelorette Party

Your pals are responsible for all décor, activities, food and drink on your hen night.

Wedding Present  

In money, time and effort, your bridesmaids are paying for a lot, so don’t be shocked or offended if they don’t get you a wedding gift. If they do plan on gifting you something, they can always go in on one thing with other bridesmaids. You might prefer to receive one nice gift over several less expensive ones anyway.

Besides the wedding present, if any of these items are in your budget, consider sharing the costs in halves.


Bouquets, Corsages and Other Floral Accessories

The bride and her family are expected to pay for the bridesmaid bouquets and other floral accents like corsages.

Wedding Day Transportation

Traditionally, the bride and her family are responsible for coordinating and covering day-of wedding transportation (to and from the hotel, church, ceremony and reception). However you, your fiancé and your families divide it up, your bridesmaids shouldn’t have to worry about this one.

Hair and Makeup

This one’s a little trickier, but if you request that your bridesmaids get their hair and makeup done professionally, then foot the bill. If you’re impartial, but your bridesmaids insist on using a professional glam squad, offer to split the bill or pay for it as their bridesmaid gift—otherwise, they can cover their own beauty services.

Accommodations the Night Before the Wedding

If you plan to spend the night in a shared hotel suite with your pals on the eve of your wedding, expect to cover the costs.

Compiled from online sources



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