Congrats—your son is getting married! Being Mother-of-the-Groom can be a great experience, but knowing exactly what your role is and navigating the Dos and Don’ts can be a little tricky. Avoid the following faux pas and you’re sure to rock it as the MOG!
1. Don’t wear white
Same goes for ivory, cream, or any other light neutral. This is a surefire way to make the bride (and guests) feel awkward.
2. Don’t dress like a bridesmaid
Find out what the bridesmaids will be wearing and opt for a dress in a different color and silhouette. Coordinating is great, but blending in completely? Not so much.
3. Don’t be overly critical
Your son and his fiance may choose to do something differently than you would have done it, and that’s OK. They really need your love and support during the planning process, so reserve judgment and resist the urge to make passive-aggressive comments or push your own expectations on them.
4. Don’t insist on upping the guest list
Traditionally, the bride’s family and groom’s family are each allotted a certain number of guests to invite. It can be hard to narrow the guest list down, particularly with a more intimate wedding, but that doesn’t mean you should consider your designated portion up for negotiation. Just remember that the bride’s family is whittling their list down, too.
5. Don’t skip the bridal shower.
Showing up to celebrate your future daughter-in-law will likely mean more to her than you might think. If you really can’t make it, sending a gift and a heartfelt card is the way to go.
6. Don’t make empty offers.
The bride and groom will undoubtedly appreciate your help on even small tasks, but don’t offer unless you mean it. Volunteer to lend a hand with a few specific things you know you can follow through with.
7. Don’t upstage with the rehearsal dinner.
Planning a nice rehearsal dinner is a generous gesture, but don’t go so overboard that it’s actually nicer than the wedding itself. Keep the budget, venue, details, and overall tone of the big day in mind and throw a simpler, more laid-back affair.