Older women make better mates because they donâ€™t have time forÂ games. Cougars just want sex and arenâ€™t seeking an exclusive long-termÂ relationshipÂ with a younger guy.
Cougars seem to want what a good majority of men want â€“Â a no strings attached hookup, right? Not necessarily.
It actually depends on the situation.
There are two types of cougars: first, there’re the onesÂ thatÂ loveÂ a good hookÂ up with young, fit-types.Â Ones that “thinkÂ like a man” â€“ looking for the hottest-looking guy she can get. Second, there’re the ones thatÂ putÂ up the facade being on the hunt,Â but truly is seeking aÂ strong connection. Not an emotionless fling.
And then this is where some of theÂ clichesÂ are proven to be true.Â Younger menÂ like to please more whileÂ the attention of a good-looking younger guy is very flattering for a cougar, and builds confidence.
But thatâ€™s not the whole story. A â€˜cubsâ€™ enthusiasmÂ inÂ and outÂ of the bedroomÂ is also really contagious, and something a lot of women enjoy discovering.
Karen LeeÂ Poter,Â author andÂ talk show host ofÂ TheÂ KarenÂ LeeÂ PoterÂ ShowÂ andÂ Sex TalkÂ With My Mom,Â believes that the latter is true:Â â€œCougar dating is far more than just about the sex. It’s a connection to someone who’s confident, young spirited, independent, and wise. Dating someone younger is a preference for an experienced woman who doesn’t play games and is self-sufficient.â€
But what do actual, real-lifeÂ cougarsÂ think?
Maria Cedar, a freelance model, is 52 years young who’s dating age range is from late 20s to early 40s. Unlike Porter, Cedar thinks that some Cougars go after younger guys just for sex. She even said thatÂ for her,Â sexÂ isÂ â€œa major part of itâ€.
But a very important factor is that:Â â€œyounger men are so much more appreciative being with someone that is more mature … and I am not talking in years, but intellectually and sexually.â€ Cougars just know what they want and what they like.
Cedar thinks that the sex is better with a younger guyÂ â€œbecause a cub wants to pleaseÂ and give more than take”.Â WhileÂ it’s fun to be with a younger,Â sexy, and ripped guy and “just appreciate two bodies enjoying each otherâ€, Cedar admits that in most cases she DOES want more than just sex.
Lucy Jones, relationship and cougar dating expert forÂ ToyboyÂ Warehouse, is 43 years young and now exclusively dates men in their 20s, after beingÂ marriedÂ to a man 10 years her senior for eight years.
Jones doesnâ€™t go into relationships with a pre-determined mindset of what the relationship will be. She enjoysÂ â€œboth serious and short-term relationships with younger men and takes each relationship as it comes.â€ Jones currently has a younger partner who is 25 years old.
As you can see, you canâ€™t put all cougar/cub relationships into one basket. â€œThereâ€™s no limit as to what a relationship between an older woman and a younger man can entail, whether thatâ€™s crazy, exciting sex, deep trusting friendship or the start of a new life together. Sex is the great perk of it all, itâ€™s not the limit,â€ concludes Jones.